An array of thoughts and rants about life, people and everything in between. Life is crazy but it can be funny. Laugh often, it's contagious.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Weeding your People Garden.
I have always known that people in general are nutty but here recently I have learned that some people are just plain crazy, like loony, nutty, need a check kinda crazy. Friends are great to have, I wouldn't change mine for the world, but we are not obligated by anyone to like another person and frankly shouldn't be friends with anyone that you just don't mesh well with. I used to have a lot more friends than I do now and it used to bother me but come to find out, I just weeded out the bad ones. Not that they were bad people, just life paths have changed and we went different directions. I have no ill thoughts of my used to be friends, I wish them nothing but the best. The friends I have now would do anything for me and they got my back no matter what dumb decision I may make. That's the things with friends, they aren't perfect, it's about balance. I may not like some of my friends habits but I love them so I choose to overlook some things. On the other hand though if you have people that say they're your friend but act a different way..... Take a hint, they are using you. I don't keep score when I do things for my friends but I wouldn't be human if I didn't have a tab running in my brain. Ya know? Another crazy thought....... Out of all the friends I have now, only one of them is from high school. One!! She is awesome though, glad I kept her around. Seriously my friends I have now are all newbies in a way. I have known them all less than 2 years, but they know me better than the friends I had for years and years. cool thing is, they love me for me and wouldn't change anything. I'm glad I weeded my people garden, it needed it. Whew... I was getting overgrown with craziness. Now it's just making sure I can keep this balance going without compromising my beliefs. That's where it gets tricky. I will not, I repeat NOT help anyone who doesn't want to help themselves. I have to surround myself with good vibe people and here lately I have questions. Not about my friends but my friends so called friends. Morally these people are just wrong and I won't hang out with shady selfish people. So what do you do when your friends are??? I guess just keep my opinions to myself and let them learn themselves that who you hang out with makes an impression on others..... I don't want anyone to think I am a drug dealing thug therefore I wouldn't hang with anyone that was doing that. Have people forgotten about guilt by association?? I know it's not right but it still happens so until people stop judging so damn much we gotta filter our friends and make sure we are making the right decisions for us and our friends. I'm rambling again. I do that a lot!!